Bible Verses about Being A Good Husband
I was an educator for two and a half decades, having taught first graders to college students. And as an educator, I’ve had the unique experience of watching students get evaluated based on their intellectual capacity and aptitude.
The purpose of evaluating students was to make sure they were placed academically in the right class based on their educational ability. The school wanted to make sure no student would get left behind just because we failed to diagnose their learning disabilities.
So, to make sure students were put in the best position to succeed, we needed to determine whether they were dyslexic, ADD, ADHD, Autistic, or any other learning classification BEFORE we could effectively teach them.
God Gives All Men The Guidance They Need Even If No One Else Has
I say all of this, because when I first launched our men’s organization, Real Men Connect, back in 2016, I didn’t realize that most men were challenged with an undiagnosed learning disability that the school system overlooked. It’s A-B-T (Ain’t Been Taught).
Not only were we not taught how to be men, but most of us weren’t taught how to be husbands and spiritual leaders of our homes. At least I know I wasn’t.
But God already knew that most of our fathers would drop the ball in teaching us how to be husbands; so, God gave us the ultimate instruction manual to teach us: The Bible.
The Word of God gives us numerous scriptures on being a good husband, and I wanted to share with you some of my favorite verses, so even if you don’t know HOW to be a good husband, you’ll at least know WHAT God expects from you as a good husband.
And don’t worry, at the end of this article, I’ll show you a way to get the help you need so you can apply what God has commanded you to do as a husband.
Bible Scriptures On Being A Good Husband - My Ten Favorites
So, what are the best scriptures on being a good husband in the Bible? Here are 10 of my favorites:
1 Peter 3:7 - Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
I love this verse, because it shows us that it’s not just enough to LOVE our wives, we have to LEARN them as well. And God has given us a built-in incentive to do so: So, our prayers will not be hindered.
Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
Yes, easier said than done, but since we’re considered to be one with our wives, treating her harshly is like being harsh to yourself. Don’t do it!
Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.
This is one of my favorites, but also one of the most challenging. Why? Because “giving yourself up” for your wife may mean sacrificing your wants and desires (including your own happiness) for her spiritual needs and for what God desires for your wife.
Ephesians 5:28 - In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
This goes back to Colossians 3:19. Treat your wife the way you would want to be treated. Neglecting her is really you neglecting yourself; disrespecting her is really you disrespecting yourself; and abusing her is really you abusing yourself. Don’t it!
1 Timothy 5:8 - But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
This scripture isn’t saying that every man MUST financially provide for his wife and family (because some men physically can’t), but God does command us to do so if we’re physically and mentally able to work. If we don’t, then we’re worse than unbelievers.
Ephesians 5:31 - “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Unfortunately, many men struggle with this one, especially if they were raised by a single mom. You usually see this struggle manifested in men who allow their mothers to take more precedent over their wives and/or allow their mothers to have too much involvement in their marriage. This is a recipe for disaster.
Ephesians 9:9 - Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.
This verse speaks to the man who may second-guess his choice in spouses; in other words, he covets or compares his wife and marriage to others. This scripture reminds us that the grass won’t be greener on the other side if take care of it and nurture it.
Hebrew 13:4 - Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Simply put, be faithful to your wife. Don’t cheat.
Ephesians 5:21 - Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Marriage isn’t about “controlling” your wife, but rather about submitting and surrendering to God.
Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Enough said. Not only is finding a wife (getting married) a good thing, learning to love, lead, and treat her right will lead to God showing you favor and blessing you, your marriage, and your family.
Understanding God's Purpose For You As A Husband Takes Time & Support
Of course, the quotes above are not the only scriptures on being a good husband; but it’s definitely a good place to start.
And as I mentioned earlier, most of us as men were never taught (by our Dads) how to be a godly husband and how to spiritually and effectively lead our families. God’s word is a great place to start, but learning in a vacuum and “figuring it out” by trial and error won’t help you or your marriage. You need support; you need training; you need accountability; because marriage is a “team sport.” And that’s exactly what we provide all of our men at Real Men Connect.
So, if you’d like to join a godly, brotherhood of men, working together to strengthen our marriages and spiritually lead our families, please don’t hesitate to either email meat realmenconnect@gmail.com or schedule an appointment to talk to me by clicking on: https://www.TalkwithDrJoe.com. Just make sure you pick the Breakthrough Call option. It’s free!