“Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22
Anything you need to become a better man, husband, father, or leader, you can find it here. Just click on the “BLUE” hyperlinks under each topic.
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This page will continue to grow as we do . Whether you’re in need of marriage counseling, life coaching, or a much needed vacation, Real Men Connect will be looking for the best available resources for men, and putting it at your finger tips. (Note: These are only suggestions/recommendations – RMC is not responsible for any legal, medical, or spiritual advice given by a third party). We also welcome any recommendations that you may have that will serve our online community. Just email your recommendations to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Quiet Time with God (Starting Point for ALL Men)
When Jesus was asked, “What’s the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus answered (in Matthew 22:36-38), “to love God with all your heart, soul and mind. This is great and foremost commandment.” Most Christians already know this, but very few Christians know HOW to love God with all their heart, soul, and mind. However, the answer isn’t as complicated as you think. In order to love God (or anyone else), you have to spend (invest) TIME in the relationship. And one of the best ways to spend time with God is to read His word. Below is a link to an awesome resource, The Real Men Connect S-P-A-C-E Journal Sheet (along with instructions). Both resources show you WHAT to do to get started and HOW to get the most out of your quiet time with God.
Celebrate Recovery Group Locator: The purpose of Celebrate Recovery™ is to fellowship and celebrate God’s healing power through the “Eight Recovery Principles.” This experience allows its participants to “be changed.” By working and applying these Biblical principles, you begin to grow spiritually. You become free from addictive, compulsive and dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and most importantly, a stronger personal relationship with God and others. Everyone is welcome and accepted, no judgements, no lectures, no hassles – just help, love and support! There are 29,000+ Celebrate Recovery Groups across the world. If you’d like to find the closest one near you, just click on this link: http://locator.crgroups.info/ – and type in your city and state, and let the search engine do the rest. Help and healing are only a click away.
Addiction Resource: Provides a community for those recovering from addiction and to help patients find the highest quality care for a successful recovery. Their goal is to provide resources to help patients and their loved ones so that they may stay on the road to recovery, and can successfully overcome addiction for life.
APPs (3 Apps Every Christian Man Must Have)
Real Men Connect App: Stay connected to us (and our community of men) 24/7/365, and receive access to hundreds of interviews, video lessons, resources, and great men of faith as they share their successes and their struggles as men, husbands, fathers, and leaders. This is the 911/411 success resource for Christian men. Just CLICK ON the links ==> to download it for FREE today: iPhone or Android device.
Blue Letter Bible: This is the only Bible app you’ll ever need. There is no close second (in our opinion). There are too many features to name. You just have to try it out for yourself. Trust us, once you try it, you’ll never feel confident or comfortable using anything else. Just go to your app store and download it.
Scripture Typer: This is the best app on the plant for memorizing God’s word. You can categorize your verses, share them, set reminders to review, and even a join a community of Believers to compare to others who are memorizing scripture with you to keep each other encouraged. It’s impossible for you to have this app and NOT increase your memorization of the words. I, along with men I’ve discipled, have tried a few, but this is the best one out there. Just go to your app store and download it.
Got Questions: Do you have a question about God, Jesus, the Bible, or theology? Do you need help understanding a Bible verse or passage? Are there spiritual issues in your life for which you need advice or counsel? Got Questions.org provides over 4,200 answers to over 400,000 Bible questions! Got Questions Ministries seeks to glorify the Lord Jesus Christ by providing biblical, applicable, and timely answers to spiritually related questions through an internet presence. You can even search their Top 20 Most Common Bible Questions.
Reading the Bible can be somewhat intimidating (especially if you’re a new believer). But you can’t lead your family without becoming familiar with God’s Word. Here are some basic instructions (download the PDF link below) on HOW to get started reading God’s Word, but more importantly, how to start ENJOYING God’s Word, without being a Bible scholar or seminary-trained theologian.
Topical Bible: If you ever wondered “What does the Bible say about ___________?” and you had a difficult time finding the scripture for it, then this search engine is for you. It searches the Internet for the topics that interest people, many of which you would never find in a traditional topical Bible. Then it shows relevant verses to that topic. People vote for or suggest verses that they think are especially relevant for a topic. So as YOU use it, you actually help improve it. Searching for a word will automatically add it to the list of topics. Note of Caution: Always check the context of a verse; that’s why they provide links. The context of a verse might put a very different slant on what the verse seems to say and mean.
I’m constantly asked about the books I read (other than the Bible) for spiritual growth; and honestly, it’s too many to name. So I decided to narrow it down by compiling a list of my favorite books (just for Christian MEN). Just CLICK HERE! This list will be updated frequently, as I read more books, so please bookmark the page or visit it frequently. If you have any suggestions or recommendations, please email us with them. So read on, lead on, and stay in His grip!
Brotherhood (Community of Men)
SOULCON: The ONE thing that EVERY man wants, but is afraid to admit that he needs is an authentic relationship with other brothers. Men who will go to battle with him, he can depend on, and trust, who will love him unconditionally. Cody Bobay, the founder and creator of SOULCON Ministries has a created such a community where men are challenged (through a six-week program called The SOULCON Challenge) to become special force soldiers for Christ, building a bond with other brothers that can never be broken. I’m a graduate of the SOULCON Community, as well as a ministry leadership partner, and we’ve, locally, taken more than 100+ men and young men through the SOULCON Challenge. Check it out for yourself by CLICKING HERE!
Check-Up (for Christian Men)
Just as every man should get a physical check-up once a year, every godly man should get a spiritual, relational, and emotional check-up just as often. So we designed a quick 5-minute guide, rooted in 22+ years of practical man-building experience, to help you do a self-assessment to see where you are spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. Just CLICK HERE or below to download it now. And if you have questions or need any additional help in any specific area, just email us.
Human behavior psychologists say that it takes 21 days to re-train your brain and create a new habit. So if you’re serious about becoming a better husband, father, student, teacher, or leader, this is the most affordable and discreet Christian counseling/coaching you can hire. The main objective is to help you become the man God created you to be. The key is to give you wisdom, build your faith, and give you spiritual accountability for 21 CONSECUTIVE DAYS from the privacy of your home. So you need a PROVEN Christian mentor, coach, and teacher who’s been there, done that, and has the T-shirt. Click here to get more details.
Church Finder – Chattanooga: Church Finder is a directory of Christian churches in Chattanooga. If you are looking for a church, you can find the right church just for you. Churches in Hamilton County are all included here. Church Finder includes Baptist churches, Methodist churches, Catholic churches, Pentecostal and Assembly of God churches, Lutheran churches, Non-denominatonal churches (listed as Christian-Other Churches) and other Protestant and Catholic Christian churches. There’s a church for you!
Let’s face it, most men struggle when it comes to meaningful communication with their wives, children, and even other men. But like most things in life, effective communication is skill, it’s not something you’re just born with. And like with most things, it takes practice in order to master it. To help you in this process, I compiled a list of what I call “Conversation Ice Breakers for Men” (47 Questions) that will get you past the fear of talking (or at least get you started). Just click on the link below, print it out, and keep it near by whenever you start to get tongue tied. I even put it in alphabetical order to help you easily remember some of the questions. Note: It was primarily meant for conversations with adults, but if you use discernment, it can work with young children and teens as well.
Continuing Education (Life Skills for Men)
It was once said, as long as you’re still living, you should never stop learning. And when it comes to being men, husbands, fathers, and spiritual leaders, we can’t afford to stop learning. We should always be in a state of CANI (constant and never ending improvement). So Real Men Connect created an online social community (on Facebook) called Real Men University, where real men can go to get fellowship, mentorship, and discipleship 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days of the year. It’s a virtual campus where you can teach, learn, and grow with some of the most respected men of faith in the country. The tuition is free, but the education is priceless: Just go to http://www.RealMenUniversity.com
Most men’s ministry attempt to add men, but they don’t multiply their men (i.e., make disciples). Jesus commands us in Matt 28:19-20 to go out and “make” disciples. But most churches (and men’s groups) don’t know where to start. That’s why we created a process we called the “Me & 3 Blueprint” to use BEFORE you start the mentoring and discipleship process; a list of “Accountability Questions” to use AFTER you’ve built a successful relationship; and a step-by-step guide for men’s group leaders when you’re READY to multiply your group called the “Disciplemaking Blueprint.” You can CLICK and download all of them.
- Brother Keepers’ Me & 3 Blueprint (for STARTING one-on-one relationships)
- Real Men Accountability Questions (for BUILDING one-on-one relationships)
- Real Men Connect Disciplemaking Blueprint (for MULTIPLYING men’s groups) – for group leaders only!
Please email us @ email@example.com if you have any questions or would like for us to train you on how to implement and use any of these resources.
There are several great resources available to successfully disciple men (and I’ve used many with my men). But hands down, the easiest and most effective tool we’ve used ourselves, and have trained others to use, is Lonnie Berger’s (from The Navigators) Every Man a Warrior curriculum. Below is a link to their website where you can read more about it, as well as purchase their curriculum (very affordable). Real Men Connect gives EMAW our highest endorsement. Please email us @ firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any questions or would like for us to train you (at not charge) on how to implement and use their resources at your church. ==> Every Man a Warrior.
I am Second: Are you without a father? Whether through divorce, abandonment, death or neglect you may find yourself with a father, without a man to love and protect you in the way that you need. But know that there is a Father who does care, who will never leave you and will never stop loving you. I am Second is a movement meant to inspire people of all kinds to live for God and for others. Actors. Athletes. Musicians. Business leaders. Drug addicts. Your next-door neighbor. People like you. The authentic stories on iamsecond.com provide insight into dealing with typical struggles of everyday living.
NOTE: If you would like to be connected to a “real men connect father figure” who’s willing to mentor, disciple, and train you in spiritual skills of manhood, please contact us via email: email@example.com and we will help you get connected.
Inspiration & Salvation
Personal Testimonies: Everybody has a story, and “Come on Let’s Go” is website dedicated specifically for Chattanooga Christians sharing their testimony (story) about the transformation and restoration power of Jesus Christ. Topics range from Alcoholism to Work-a-holism, and everything in between. It’s almost impossible for you to walk away from this site without being inspired and motivated to share the gospel of Jesus Christ with others. They even published my personal testimony on their site.
Christian Lawyers: You may be dealing with something as seemingly simple as a traffic ticket or may be looking for legal help after a serious accident that has left you without a loved one. In these legal matters, finding a Christian attorney in your area may be of the utmost importance. Neighborhood Christian Lawyer’s directory includes attorneys who have chosen salvation – just as you have. At Neighborhood Christian Lawyer, they recognize just how important it is to find a lawyer who understands and shares your religious beliefs. Considering the life-changing and highly personal nature of many legal matters, this can make all the difference in your peace of mind and even the outcome of your case.
Christian Marriage Counseling: Find detailed professional listings for Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Therapists, Counselors, Group Therapy and Treatment Centers right here in Chattanooga, as well as in other cities around the country. If you’re struggling in your marriage or just in need of a tune up, nothing is going to change unless you change some things. And change starts with the first step or first phone call. Seeking or asking others for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a demonstration of strength. As the spiritual head of your household, it’s vital for you to take the initiative to seek the help you need to help your family succeed. God said in James 4:6, “God opposes the proud, but He gives grace to the humble.”
Reminder Guru: With this FREE Reminder Service, you’ll never forget another important date again (anniversary, birthday, recital, ballgame, or event – you name it). Whenever and wherever, you get to decide when and how to be reminded, either by email, text or voice call. It’s that simple. Need to remind friends and family? You can send a reminder to any email or phone number. You can setup recurring reminders for those monthly bills. Reminder Guru even lets you create your own audio messages and use them for call reminders or for voicemail to email. You can have your call reminders ring with your phone number, and you can even send a reminder to a group of people.
Sustained Victory for Men. It’s not only possible to defeat porn, but it’s possible to sustain the victory as well. When men ask me how I was able to sustain MY victory over pornography for the past 12+ years (and counting), after I tell them by the grace of God, then I share with them my “Sustained Victory Checklist.” It’s 10 things (and a bonus item) I’ve done and continue to do. And of course, if you would like for me to personally work with you (i.e., coach you), you can always email us for details at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Prayer Works: REAL MEN are praying men. And REAL MEN are strongest when they’re fighting on their knees. So how much stronger do you think a man is when others are praying with him and praying for him? Click on the link ==> “Prayer Works,” a gain access to a prayer line in which literally hundreds (if not thousands) of Christians can be praying for you instantly. Not only that, you can also choose to pray for others and be notified (via email) when others pray for you. And of course, if you would like us to personally pray for you, you can always email us your request at email@example.com.
Come On Let’s Go is a worldwide media and advertising initiative pointing seekers to a relationship with Jesus Christ through real life-changing stories of people who’ve found Christ in midst of their pain, heartbreak, and suffering. A pastor once said that the best two words anyone can use to minister to someone is “Me too.” Click on the Come On Let’s Go link and just pick a category, and find hope in lives of people (you like you) whose lives have been transformed by the love and power of Jesus Christ.
Things-to-Do (in Chattanooga)
Chattanooga Fun: Your wife or girlfriend ever ask you, “Why don’t we ever do anything or go anywhere?” And then she wants YOU to decide where to go and what to do. Well, look no further than the Chattanooga Fun website. From “What to do” to “Where to eat,” Chattanooga Fun reminds us why the Scenic City is one of the best cities to live in America. If you want to add a little romance to your relationship, you can choose from romantic and historic Bed and Breakfast inns, explore local restaurants, enjoy fine art, or even explore the great outdoors. The choice is yours!